We've all been there. Literally, we all come from vaginas. A lot of us even have them! Yet they remain an unspeakable part of our daily lives. How does this effect how we joke about vaginas? Or vice versa: how do jokes about vaginas effect how we think of them? Join us in this conversation speaking about the unspeakable.
This Fallopian Life: Is my vagina showing?
by Emma Speer and Lily Shoretz
As a woman in comedy, or as a woman who wants to make people laugh, or as a woman who wants to laugh, or just as a woman, we often need to compromise ourselves and join the “boys club.” With this compromise comes a lot of dicks. This Fallopian Life: Is my vagina showing? explores the culture around penis and vagina jokes. A conversation between myself and my co-producer, Lily Shoretz, weaves through conversations with 8 female Yale students. They articulate—some for the first time-- their relationships with their vaginas and the stigma around vagina jokes. Also interspersed throughout the piece are vagina songs and stand up almost exclusively by women. This podcast was made for women by women, but has something to offer all genders because vagiphobia permeates all modern American culture.
Many of our interviewees’ first experience with their vagina is their period. Early vagploration consists of awkwardly holding a mirror “down there” - if any vagploration happens at all. The vagina’s mysterious and sometimes scary stigma in the media also pervades women’s relationships to their own vaginas. The vagina’s stigma/silenve in the media feeds off of its unspokenness at home, and vice versa, although where this feedback loop originates is unclear. Some interviewees speculate that because dicks are physically “out there”, they are easier to joke about. Others hypothesize that because dicks are vocally “out there”—“men have held the mike”—their words are whats heard. Men will talk about what they know about, and what they know about is their dicks. The male-dominated comedic realm combines with the patriarchal history of modern America. Females must remain untainted, and barring them from humor may be some way of protecting females from impurity.
These women’s stories really opened my ears/eyes/mind to the untold stories, shame and hilarity of all the women around me. When I told my mother about this podcast, my brothers overheard and immediately started joking at me (no other way to put it) to stop talking about it. What’s even more- I was actually grateful for their censoring because I was so uncomfortable talking to my mom about vaginas. Finding songs that were 1) about vaginas and 2) by females was nearly impossible. Where are all the vaginas? They’re typing this statement, reading this statement, running for president, popping out babies, trying to hold in a queef, and wanting, waiting, needed to laugh out loud.